Do you like to be scared? Do you like to go to haunted trails, house, or caves? Well, our family does not. But this weekend, my daughter's BF had his bday party at Kings Island's Fearfest. She tried to tell him that she hates that stuff, but she went anyway because she did not want to bail on him. When we got there, there were creatures milling around, like in the movie Halloweentown (Disney). She was not thrilled. The rest of the kids headed out to a trail or train or something and she dug her heels in and stayed with me and BF's Mom (I helped drive kids to and from KI).
She watched a show with us and we walked around being screamed out by creatures and it really freaked her out. I tried not to make eye contact, but this kind of evening is just not what we ever do or what we enjoy. It upset BF some, but he was warned.
So the the next day, BF was with us and tried to talk to my daughter about this. Apparently his mother told him that daughter was very immature in her actions because she didn't go off with them and try to have fun. She also told him that she is too attached to me and that daughter needs to grow up and BF shouldn't hang out with her anymore because she stresses him out too much.
Well this has ticked me off. I have honestly tried to get daughter to go out and do things on her own. She hardly won't. Not everyone is into scary things. Maybe she is too attached to me, but I don't mind it. I love knowing what is going on with her and her friends and I love that she can talk to be about everything. I do agree that she stress about things and worries about things too much, though. I have tried to tell her that boyfriends and situations will work out, but it's hard for a 15-year-old to hear that. Daughter won't hardly go over to a friend's house unless she really gets to know them and she hasn't spent the night with anyone in a very long time. It really upsets me that this mom is a)trying to tell her kid who his friends should be and b) that she is kind of taking shots at my husband and my parenting skills. I have raised my daughter this best I can and I know she doesn't lie and she isn't deceitful. I know for a fact that this parent's kid has been lying about things to her for months, but I don't feel it is my place to interfere. I will not do that to him. But she isn't the person I thought she was.
Does anyone else have an opinion on this?
I sure have a bloody opinion! There is absolutely nothing wrong with your daughter. I was the exact same way and it wasn't always easy, believe me. I only had sleepovers with one friend and usually she came over to our house. At least your daughter made the effort of going to the stupid bloody haunted island, but it's still her choice to participate in those silly things or not. Maybe the BF should now do something your daughter's really into that he doesn't like very much and see what it feels like. As for the mother: tell her to shove it where the sun don't shine. She's a rude, jealous bitch cause she can obviously see what great relationship you and your daughter have and I think she might even know her son isn't always that honest to her and it bothers her. Don't you worry about a thing; you're obviously doing a great job with your daughter and you'll always get mothers who wants to ruin that special relationship with their childish behaviour. Have a good day :)
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